(From a message in "soc." newsgroup, by Laura Goodwin (laura@lauragoodwin.-
org), posted 5/7/2001):

...

"There are times when being laid back is not appropriate.  Recognize when
those times are, and just act appropriately.  Standing up for what you
think is important and putting your foot down when it's necessary to do
so is not "being bitchy", it's called having a backbone.  Make yourself
one of the important things you never fail to stand up for.  

"Your self has been your most faithful friend.  Stand up for your self. 
That's not being selfish, that's being loyal.  If you are good to anyone
at all be sure to be good to your self.  Don't leave yourself out of the
equation when you are figuring out how to spread your love around."