From: "Jay D. Dyson" Subject: Re: Playing the game--final update Date: Sun, 08 Sep 1996 16:57:03 -0700 RIRview1 wrote: > Previously, in our last episode of "Playing the Game," Richard had left > several mesages for a girl he had gone out with twice and had a very > enjoyable time with, and was quite puzzled why she hadn't returned his > phone calls since she seemed to enjoy his company too. Our story > continues... *rolling up sleeves* Right then, here we are. Well, let's do first things first. I recall you left a message on this woman's answering machine about not responding to your messages. Because I respect you, I *have* to tell you the truth: that was a _bad_ move. If a woman doesn't return your phone calls, it's either [a] for a very good reason, or [b] for the simple reason that she's not interested. Neither of these reasons require a follow-up call from you to her. And guy, if someone's going to be so disrespectful as to not return a simple phone call, you're better off without 'em. > So, I get home Saturday night about 11:30 p.m. and there's a message on my > answering machine. It's from her. She says that she's really sorry that > it's taken so long to get back to me, but she's been real busy, and > there's been a lot of turmoil in her personal life. What she says may or may not be true. Either way, it's time to write her off and move on. Argh-and-a-half! That bites. Definitely time to mush on. > So next month, when my credit card bill comes and I see the $120 resturant > tabs won't I feel like the fool. !!EEK!! My friend, let's have a chat about temperance in spending money on dates. To give some perspective: I'm in a committed relationship and make far more than 85% of my peers...even so, it's got to be a darned special occasion when I take my sweetheart to a restaurant that's going to cost $120.00. This isn't because I'm a tightwad or have an aversion to going out in style. It's just that there need to be limits set on extravagance when it comes to dating. Try being a little more low-key. You won't be so put-out if things don't work out, and you'll save yourself some serious bucks for when things *do* work out! ;) Bottom line: I know you're feeling lousy because you've been jilted again. I perfectly understand and appreciate the pain you're in, having been there many times before. Give yourself a few days to let the pain work its way out of your system. Then let's see about getting you back in the ol' loop. Hang in there... -Jay ( ( .--="There's always time for a good cup of coffee."=--. _______ )) )) | Jay D. Dyson - Administrator, Alt.Wedding Home Page | >====<--. C|~~|C|~~| |-----= http://www.point-2-point.com/altwedding =-----| | = |-' `--' `--' `---' `------'